"There is no challenge more challenging than the challenge to improve yourself."- kushandwizdom
Whenever Kinda and I prepare to lead one of our 30-day self-care challenges, we meet to divide the responsibilities. Each challenge begins with an intro day, where we welcome our participants, followed by weekly deep dives into one of The Four Seeds of Self-Care, and finishing with an outro day of gratitude and continued encouragement. When preparing for our May 1st "Perfectly Imperfect" challenge, Kinda suggested that we divide the load amongst ourselves based on the seeds we find the most challenging. "We know because we know, not because we know better" is a statement we often use in our workshops and retreats. The aim is to help our clients understand that they are not alone in the continuous struggle to put self-care first in their lives. However, with all the demands of daily life, whether it is in family, business, or otherwise, it is imperative that we strive to seek healthy ways of managing and reducing the stress of those demands.
Sleep has been an aspect of self-care that I have wrestled with in one way or another for as long as I can remember. Don't misunderstand. I have no problems falling asleep. It's the waking up part that is my constant challenge. When I was a kid, I used to fall asleep at my desk in school. I knew how to position myself just right so my teacher would think I was simply resting my chin in my hand, making it look like I was deeply focused on the notes or books on my desk. Two things would inevitably give away the fact that I had fallen asleep in class- either my teacher would ask me a question and I wouldn't have the faintest idea what they were talking about, or I would start nodding off, causing my head to slip out of my hand and my hand to come crashing down on the desk, drawing attention to myself, and then having to deal with the teacher's wrath and my classmates' chiding remarks. In college, I struggled to wake up in the mornings for class. So much so, my roommates refused to bother to wake me- first, because it was impossible, and second, because I was known to cuss them out WHILE I was sleeping for trying to get me up! To this day, I don't remember having done that, but I have been told of my obscenity shouting slumbers enough times to know that it must be true.
"If it doesn't challenge you, it doesn't change you."- Author unknown
As an adult, I have a tendency to covet sleep above all else- my work, my passions, my mental health. My body has no problem at all sleeping for twelve hours straight. But when I sleep too much I feel groggy the rest of the day, causing my mood to be cranky, which leads to irritability towards my daily tasks and the people in my house. This sets me up to feel like a failure on a professional level and breeds shame on a pe