"Find a group of people who challenge and inspire you, spend a lot of time with them, and it will change your life." – Amy Poehler
I think about the times in my life when someone walked through the door and changed me for the better. My sister-in-law, a former attorney of mine, my doula, Sarah (who became my dear friend of 17 years now), my husband, and my soul sister, Rachel, all come to mind. In each instance the above-mentioned people not only supported me, but BELIEVED in me! They saw a strong, loving, giving, intelligent woman of value. Even during those times when I didn’t see that in myself. When things got tough and shit got real and I didn’t think I could push through they said “yes you can!” They were on my team.
When the birth of my firstborn became an emergency and I was whisked away to be put asleep to have my baby surgically removed by c-section I was devastated. Of course, the most important thing was that my beautiful baby boy was healthy! But I was made to feel ashamed for the way that I felt about my birth experience. It wasn’t until many years later pregnant with my second child that I was able to take my power back and have a natural birth or VBAC (vaginal birth after cesarean.) With the help of Sarah, I had two successful VBACs, laboring at home and making it to the hospital just in time for the doctor to catch the baby! She encouraged and strengthened me, affirming my power as I moved through each of my pregnancies and births. She helped me to listen to my intuition about how to support my body through this natural process.
There are times in our life when we reach a point of challenge and we must grow or coast along and stay the same. Facing these growth edges is not easy. But eventually the urge to grow becomes so strong that we cannot ignore it.
This is how I felt before ReConnectEd To Life was born. I asked Rachel to be my accountability partner because I was stuck. I knew that I needed to make changes, but I was riddled with guilt anytime I thought of my own needs. I made everyone else in my life a priority and put myself on the bottom of the list (if at all.) But I knew in my heart that I deserved to take time for me and that it was not selfish as we are often conditioned to believe. So over the course of a year Rachel and I met and supported each other in our self-care until these practices became habits. As we shared our challenges and successes our conviction in consistently practicing The Four Seeds of Self-Care grew and grew until ReConnectEd To Life sprang forth!