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Resistance


“Most of us have two lives. The life we live, and the unlived life within us. Between the two stands resistance.” Steven Pressfield

Chances are that if you have ever started ANY new endeavor you have encountered Resistance with a capital R. Whether it’s starting a new business, getting in shape, going back to school, whatever- if you’ve tried to grow or improve (and I know you have), you’ve brushed up against Resistance. Steven Pressfield, the acclaimed author of The Legend of Bagger Vance, among many other books, is an expert on Resistance. So much so that he’s written several books on the subject, including The War of Art.


But, like Steven Pressfield and me, I’m guessing that you are all too familiar with Resistance yourself! As a fellow human being, you know what I’m talking about! We likely came INTO this world RESISTING! Think about it! Our own mothers have to push us out of the cozy home we’ve known for the better part of nine months! Hey you, time to leave the comfort of the womb and get out into the world! Time to GROW. Not that you weren’t working hard growing the last nine months. But now it’s time to move on...grow some more. Sheesh....


Resistance comes in many forms that are you might recognize: self-doubt, procrastination, fear, self-criticism, and the best one of all self-sabotage! All these things show up to trip you up. To keep you small. To protect your ego. The good news is that we can begin to recognize the signs of resistance and flip the switch from the negative to the positive by realizing these opportunities for growth!


Though the initial tendency may be to numb the discomfort with some good ole Netflix binging or a pint of Ben & Jerry’s there are many tools to help you overcome resistance when it arises.

"Change is never painful. Only the resistance to change is painful." Buddha

If you are ready to face your Resistance head on here are some practices worth considering:


Self-compassion: Many of us are caught in the web of self-perfection. We’ve got such high expectations of ourselves that it leaves no room for anything less than perfect. Perfection is exactly like a web- once we get caught in the stickiness it’s hard to get out! Self-compassion is the antidote to perfectionism. It allows us to give ourselves the sam